A Singapore born lawyer practising in Perth for the last 30 years with an interest in social and ethnic justice. Father of 2 boys aged 23 and 21 and a lovely wife who is a soul mate.
Buddha's words
Thursday, June 30, 2016
Friday, June 24, 2016
The 2016 CEO Sleepout
Dear friends
4 Amigos who have slept out for 7 years in a row. Shane Ball, Ray Tan, Barry Felstead and Bob Bollen |
Shen, Sean Shwe and Ray Tan |
The view from the 4th floor |
Shen in his sleeping spot |
It was a tough
night last night.
Representing
the Asian community were Shen Sheng of Mozart Patisserie and I, with new comer
Sean Shwe.
The evening started
out as a warm night.
We had soup and
bread rolls to sustain us.
After listening
to some inspiring stories of homelessness and how Vinnies help to overcome the
problem, Shen and I started looking for a place to sleep.
We managed to
find the doors open to the media rooms on the 4th floor of the WACA.
There were soft
leather sofas in the room and lush toilets.
However, we felt it was not in the right spirit of the Sleepout to use
the rooms.
We decided to
camp outside the rooms in the open with views to the cricket grounds.
I woke up at 3
am, 4 am and 5 am as it got increasingly cold. Got up at 6 am for breakfast
with Shen at the Willow room before returning home to my warm bed.
It was yet,
again a reminder of how tough the homeless have as a daily life. I will sleep
out again next year and hope that all of you continue to support me.
This year I
raised $32,420 which is just slightly below what I raised last year. Many CEOs
commented that it was harder to get donations because of the weak economy.
Again, my heartfelt thanks to
the following persons.
There were several anonymous
sponsors who I am unable to personally thank or acknowledge.
1.
The “anonymous”
sponsor for $3000
2.
The Pua Brothers who
have supported me every year
3.
Tan Sri Khoo from
MUI in Malaysia
4.
Sally Cen from
YingCo Resources
5.
Patti Chong from
Patti Chong Lawyers. I have yet to persuade Patti to join me as a homeless
lawyer.
6.
Harris Khor from
Hush Puppies
7.
Pierre Yang who is
also looking at getting into parliament
8.
My sister Serene
9.
Lawrence Tay
1.
My niece Elizabeth
Tan
1.
Tom Wang
1.
Ben Pan
1.
Steven Pynt
1.
Esther Chang an old
friend
1.
Ardy and Ginny my
badminton friends
1.
Jackson Ngo a good
client
1.
Stuart Reeves who
has seen tough times himself
1.
Henry Moser who was
the first to sponsor me this year. Good on him.
1.
Daniel Bahk another
good client
2.
Tommy Sim my nephew
in law
2.
Allan Rodrigues my
dentist.
2.
Patrick Liau who
owns Como Windsor Hotel
2.
The Rocks Church and
Pastor Daniel who have supported me every year. I am trying to get Daniel to
take part next year.
2.
David Meese, my old
client, not in age though.
2.
Vaughn Emery another
old friend.
2.
Gerhard Coetzee the
owner of several Coffee Club cafes yet again this year. Thanks Gerhard.
2.
Grace Kwa
2.
Amanda Dorn the
owner of Urban Residential. She has been persuaded by myself to take part in
the event and is doing well in her own fund raising.
2.
Joy Savage with her
usual smile.
3.
Kiat, my old friend
in Christmas Island.
3.
Lindsay Glenn a
fellow lawyer.
3.
Freddie Chew, all
the way from Malaysia.
3.
Good badminton buddy
Corina
3.
Stevie Teo again
this year. Times are tough for him but he still supports the cause. Good on
him.
3.
Yew Mun Wong
3.
Angelia Khoo again
this year.
3.
Theresa Kwok who
again has supported me every year.
3.
My good friend Patsy
who keeps encouraging me to do good.
3.
The Miles who
donated without revealing their names. It took some great detective work to
find them. They support me every year.
4.
Datin Gertie from
Malaysia. I will get her to take part next year.
4.
Jiten who supports
me every year.
4.
Paula Garnham my
financial planner who makes sure I am homeless only for 1 night. Thanks
again this year.
4.
Andre Lim, a new
client and supporter.
4.
Brian Lee , who is a
new about to be tycoon.
4.
Joanne Tan , my real
estate agent.
4.
Peter Foster Bunch.
4.
Aaron Siew. I
wish he could deliver some of his chicken rice to me that night I sleep out.
4.
Lisa Tai for
supporting me again this year. Thanks and I hope you return to Perth.
4.
Sanjay my mortgage
broker friend from Onsight Finance
5.
Jimmy Kho my golfing
friend.
5.
Alan Yeo from AMS.
5.
Jasmyn and Peter
Wright my neighbours who own RE 88. Peter has agreed to take part next year. I
will hold him to it.
5.
Kee Yee Yong
my old friend.
5.
Udom Thanissorn who
lives in Thailand but who still supports me.
5.
The Shims who have
supported me nearly every year.
5.
Retired Honourable
Justice Julienne Penny who is supporting me yet again this year.
5.
Rosalyn Seow my
Buddhist friend.
5.
Susan Zhang who
sponsored me anonymously. Yes, I found out it was you Susan.
5.
Siew Si, another old
friend.
6.
Michael Tan
6.
Frank Liang of
Canning Vale Market Seafood for his very very generous donation.
6.
My niece Deb.
6.
Nora Callaghan, a
new client.
6.
Denning Chong from
James Chong Lawyers who supports me generously every year.
6.
Grant Hoy Poy who
also helps every year.
6.
Minnie Seth, an old
friend.
6.
Steve Farano from
SRF Earth Moving who usually takes part too but cannot because of his young
kids now.
6.
Irwan Lee from
Corniche Homes who I challenge to take part next year.
6.
Katherine and Tony
who also support me yearly.
7.
Roy Lim from
RayRockets
7.
Mark Horwood from
Captivate On Hold. I have challenged him to take part next year.
7.
Kevin De Sousa my
fellow lawyer friend
7.
Janet Cheng, another
old friend
7.
Sok Teoh, my
badminton friend
7.
George Boladian from
Charcos.
7.
Yuli Zheng, my son’s
badminton coach
7.
Di Zhang from
Intlang
7.
Wai and Paul Kong,
my son’s other badminton coach.
7.
Brendan Glynn from Progolfme
8.
Ming from WEKYSO
8.
Ben Leitch from Narrow
Lot Homes
8.
Homer from Airflite.
I am trying to persuade him to next year.
Till I sleep
out again next year. Stay safe every one.
Tuesday, June 21, 2016
The demise of the other Tan of Tan and Tan Lawyers
Dear friends
Last Sat was an emotional day for me as I laid my brother Charles Tan to rest.
Charles was the other Tan in Tan and Tan Lawyers.
He is survived by his wife Cynthia and 3 children, my mum and 9 other siblings. His has been a tough life but he has always been a good brother to all his other siblings.
He earned my biggest respect by the way he spent time last year looking after my mum who is also not well.
Many of the siblings and nephews and nieces celebrated his life at my youngest sis's home after the funeral. It was a good night which Charles would have enjoyed too.
Good bye my dear brother Charles
This is my eulogy:
Eulogy for Charles Tan
I would like to thank all of you who have come here to
celebrate Charles’s life. We are here as we have shared the experience of
having known my brother Charles Tan as either a sibling, a relative, a golfing
kaki, a friend and even as a client.
Charles, my dearest brother whom I call Koko is the eldest
boy in a family of 10 children.
If you compare his size to the rest of the brothers, you
will note that he was the shortest in height but he had the biggest heart.
I have always said that he was the shortest one amongst the
siblings as he sacrificed what was on the dinner table for the other siblings.
As the eldest in the family, I recall that he had to work in
the shipyards in Singapore to help the family finances. That must have been
tough as he often told me how very early he had to wake up every day to get to
work.
I remember moving in with him when he rented a bungalow
within the Seletar Air Base in Singapore.
We lived at the Seletar Air base for quite a few years while I was studying
my A Levels in night class.
Koko was by then a lawyer and I remember listening and
discussing his legal cases with me. That inspired me to learn the law. So even
at 16 years of age, I knew I wanted to be a lawyer just like big brother.
I will never forget sharing the house at Seletar Air Base.
That was the first time I was away from mum and dad. But I was safe as we were
together.
In fact that was the time he started dating his wife
Cynthia. That means that I must have known Cynthia for almost as long as Koko
had known her.
In fact just yesterday Cynthia reminded me of how Charles
and I used to take walks to buy indian
vadais from a shop within the air base.
When I went to England to study, it was through the help of
Koko and the rest of the siblings.
Koko and I would write to each other regularly. Of course
during that time, there was no such things as skype or email.
Occasionally we would have a phone call to him from England.
A telephone call from England to Singapore or Australia was such a luxury and
the conversations were always short and to the point so as to save money.
Unfortunately, for me, I still carry that experience with me
and my wife sometimes says I am always too short and curt when talking on the
phone.
It is no secret that most of the siblings who migrated to
Perth did so because of Koko.
Koko was a real trailblazer for the Tan family.
He migrated to Perth more than 40 years ago when Perth was a
real backwater town.
He was one of maybe 2 or 3 Chinese lawyers who had the
courage and the determination to start a legal practice in WA.
It was a period of racial discrimination against the Asians
and yet he found the courage and the skill set to establish his practice of
Charles Tan and Co.
His client base at that time consisted of many who did not
have the language skills to defend or protect themselves.
He did many criminal cases that were reported and which
brought him closer to the Asian community. He championed the Asians who were
being discriminated during that period.
Many of his oldest clients and friends are in this room
today. Papalia, Maggie, Daisy and Wayne all remind me of the Mint House days
where he had his practice as Charles Tan and Co.
In the 1990s, Charles and I registered Tan and Tan Lawyers.
Charles headed the practice. He handed the reins to me in July 2003.
There was a period of time where we went our separate ways
because of a difference in opinion, However we were able to settle our
differences as brothers.
Whatever differences we had over the practice of law was reconciled
by the fact that we shared the same beliefs in family and the caring of our
parents.
Our mother who is still alive in Singapore was diagnosed
with dementia quite a few years ago.
Koko went above and beyond the call of duty in flying back
to Singapore on many occasions to help look after mum.
I must also say my thanks yous to my other brothers and
sisters in Singapore who have continued to care for our mum especially Lawrence
and his wife Irene and daughters.
I will always treasure and respect Koko for the time he took
to look after mum. I know mum never said it, but she always favoured Koko as he
helped the family while working at the shipyard and was a contributing
breadwinner for our big family of 10.
Koko leaves behind a loving wife, Cynthia who stood beside
him through everything that God threw at them.
I have seen how Cynthia did everything to ensure Koko was as
comfortable as possible so as to give him the dignity to endure his last few
months on earth fighting cancer.
He leaves behind also his beloved son Timothy and daughters
Vicky and Liz.
I have learned from Koko the importance of bestowing love on
your children and I am thankful my relationship with my 2 boys are as close as Koko’s
relationship with his children.
I would like to just quickly read some portions of emails
sent by some of Koko’s friends:
Kevin De sousa: a fellow lawyer:
“Although
I did not work with Charles at Tan & Tan Lawyers, I often would call him up
to ask for his guidance in criminal law matters. On several occasions, we
went out drinking during the days when I was at Tan & Tan Lawyers. We would
talk about his days in Singapore, how he started his legal practice in Perth,
how he smashed his car into a home at Wanneroo Road after a drinking session,
how he got his Singapore drug smuggling client acquitted in his early
days of practice in Perth which led him to being known among the Asian
community, why he migrated to Perth, his articles for the newspaper in
Singapore, his satay machine and business etc.
Charles
was always fascinating with his stories and I will always remember him as a
very helpful and humble person and a lawyer who had a great passion and
learning for the law.”
Minnie Seth, an old client of Charles: “I was privileged to
have had him as my solicitor when I was starting out on my career and will
always remember his calm and kind way in which he handled every problem
that drifted into my conveyancing world and reassured that there was nothing to
worry about. God rest his soul in peace. I will always remember him as a
decent, kind and good man”.
Teo Soh Lung, a fellow lawyer and my master in Singapore:
“Yes, Charles had been with Teo Lai & Lee ever since it
was formed. We sought his advice and his experience in criminal legal aid in
Australia when we set out mind to form such a scheme. He was always helpful and
supportive of the wild plans we have. And he was a great criminal lawyer”.
Kee Yong Yee: “He had a strong conviction
for justice and he was a strong fighter against racial discrimination. It
is so sad that he left this world so early. “
On behalf of Cynthia and her children and the Tan family,
thank you for coming today to celebrate Charles’s life.
Lastly I end with a simple quote from Terry Pratchett, an
English author.
“Do you not know that a man is not dead while his name is
still spoken?” ― Terry Pratchett
I am sure Charles’s name will continue to be spoken by all
of us.
Raymond
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